23 Things You’re Doing That Your Dog Secretly Hates (But Can’t Tell You)

Dogs aren’t just pets. They’re a big part of the family. And like with any loved one, how we treat them matters greatly. Even though dogs are sweet and loyal, there are things we do that they don’t like. They might not bark about it (literally), but that doesn’t mean they enjoy it. Let’s walk through 23 everyday things many do without realizing how much dogs wish we wouldn’t.

23. Interrupting Mealtime

Imagine someone poking you during dinner or taking your plate mid-bite—annoying, right? Well, dogs feel the same. Mealtime is their quiet moment. If they’re eating, let them enjoy it. Choose a calm spot in your home, away from foot traffic or noise, and put their food bowl there. Teach everyone in the house not to bug them while they eat. Also, avoid touching or moving their bowl while they’re eating unless it’s needed. This helps them feel safe and relaxed with their food.

22. Serving the Same Food Forever

Even though dogs don’t have as many taste buds as humans, they enjoy new flavors occasionally. Watching you enjoy something tasty while they always get the same dry food can feel unfair. You don’t need to change their food daily, but a little mix-up now and then—like a dog-safe veggie, cooked meat, or a special treat—makes a difference. It shows you care and keeps things interesting for them, even if they’re not picky eaters.

21. Locking Them Away During Visits

Dogs love company. So, when friends or family come over, and your dog gets shut outside or stuck in another room, it can feel like punishment. Dogs want to be part of the action. Of course, only do this if your dog is friendly with people. Letting them be around guests helps them feel included and teaches them how to act around new people. Over time, this makes social situations easier for both of you.

20. Bathing Them Too Much

Dogs have their way of staying clean; their natural smell helps other dogs understand them. Bathing your dog too often, especially when not dirty, can be uncomfortable for them. Plus, strong-smelling shampoos might worsen things—they’ll likely head outside to roll in something smelly to “fix” their scent. During bath time, use a gentle, unscented shampoo and only clean them when needed.

19. Scolding Without Clarity

If your dog chews a shoe or pees on the carpet, it’s easy to get angry. But yelling doesn’t solve the problem. Dogs don’t understand that something they did hours ago is what you’re mad about now. Scolding only creates confusion and stress. Instead, focus on rewarding the good things they do. Positive reinforcement works much better in the long run and helps your dog learn what you expect.

18. Forcing Social Time

Dogs are pack animals, but that doesn’t mean they want to be friends with every dog they meet. Just like humans, they have preferences. Forcing your dog to hang out with another dog they don’t like can create tension and even aggression. If they’re not getting along, keeping them apart is okay. Give your dog space and only let them socialize on their terms.

17. Too Much Exercise

Daily walks are great, but running long distances or over-exercising can be harmful—especially for specific breeds or older dogs. Some dogs, like pugs or bulldogs, have breathing problems and can’t keep up on long jogs. And senior dogs might need shorter, gentler exercise. Before changing your dog’s routine, check with your vet to see what kind of activity fits your dog’s age and health best.

16. Being Left Out in the Heat

Dogs can’t cool down like we can. They don’t sweat through their skin—they pant. But sometimes, panting alone isn’t enough. When it’s hot outside, your dog can overheat quickly. Always give them a shady spot or let them stay inside where it’s cool. Make sure they have fresh water all the time. If they seem too warm, you can gently wet their fur to help cool them off faster.

15. Rough Play from Kids

Kids mean well, but their playful energy can overwhelm dogs—mainly if they aren’t used to it. Pulling ears, tugging tails, or trying to ride a dog like a pony isn’t fun for the dog. Before children visit, talk to their parents and explain how to treat your dog gently. If things get too wild, let your dog relax in another room where they feel safe and undisturbed.

14. Treating Them Like a Baby

It’s sweet to love your dog like family, but treating them like a human baby can cause problems. Dogs have different needs and don’t think like people do. If your dog acts out, like chewing furniture or having accidents indoors, they’re not doing it to “get back at you.” They could be stressed, untrained, or even sick. Instead of treating them like children, focus on training and understanding their needs.

13. Stopping Their Natural Instincts

Dogs sniff things to learn about the world—it’s part of who they are. If you always stop them from sniffing other dogs or exploring, they miss out on one of the ways they communicate. It may seem strange to us, but for them, it’s how they connect. Let your dog follow their nose (within reason), and you’ll have a happier companion.

12. Loud Music and Noises

Dogs hear way better than we do. Noises that seem normal to us—like loud music or fireworks—can scare them. If you like playing music in the car or at home, turn the volume down when your dog is around. Their ears are sensitive, and keeping things quieter helps them stay calm.

11. Teasing with Treats

Dangling a treat and pulling it away might seem funny, but dogs don’t find it amusing. They take it seriously. Treats should be a reward, not a trick. Using treats to tease your dog can break trust. Instead, give them as a way to show love or to reinforce good behavior.

10. Fighting Around Them

Dogs know when something’s wrong. If you’re arguing at home, they feel the stress, too. They might bark, try to stop the fight, or act out because the tension makes them nervous. A calm home helps everyone, including your furry friend. If you can, take arguments to another room or wait until you’re both calmer before speaking again.

9. Being Alone for Too Long

Dogs are social animals. Being alone for ten or more hours a day isn’t healthy. They can start barking too much, chewing things, or even forgetting their house training. If you’ve gone a lot, consider asking a neighbour, friend, or dog walker to stop by. Bring them to doggy daycare. And when you’re home, spend real time with them—play, walk, cuddle.

8. Giving Up Too Easily

Sometimes, things get tough. Maybe your dog isn’t house-trained or barks too much. But instead of giving up, it’s essential to try. Dogs can change with time and training. Abandoning them causes deep emotional pain. They might become fearful, shut down, or depressed. Worse, many dogs given up to shelters never find a new home. They need your patience and your love.

7. Rushing Bathroom Breaks

To a dog, sniffing around is part of the bathroom process. It’s not just about doing their business—it’s their time to check out the neighborhood. If you pull them along too fast, they miss out. Let them sniff the grass, the pole, the bush. It might take a few extra minutes, making their walk more enjoyable.

6. Holding the Leash Too Tight

Your dog can sense your mood through the leash. If you’re calm, the leash stays loose. If you’re anxious or tense, they feel it through the pull. Tight leashes can hurt and frustrate your dog. Use a good harness and train them gently to walk beside you. A relaxed walk is more fun for both of you.

5. Punishing Curiosity

Dogs love to dig, chew, and chase things. It’s how they explore their world. When you punish them harshly for doing what comes naturally, they don’t understand why you’re upset. Instead, guide them toward safe, allowed activities. Give them toys to chew or a space where digging is okay.

4. Not Letting Them Rest

Sometimes, dogs want to nap without being poked, hugged, or bothered. Especially older dogs. Ensure your dog has a cozy spot where they can rest without interruption. Teach kids and guests to leave them alone when they’re in that space. Rest is just as important as play.

3. Always Being Sad Around Them

Dogs pick up on your feelings. If you’re down for a long time, they may start feeling that way, too. Some dogs become quiet, anxious, or even ill. Try to keep some daily routine. And remember, your dog can help you feel better. Cuddles, fresh air, and walks are suitable for both of you.

2. Dragging Them Around

Tugging or yanking your dog on walks isn’t fair to them. It can hurt their neck or body, especially if done often. Train your dog with kindness. Use treats and patience instead of pulling. Walk at a pace that suits both of you, and the experience becomes smoother and more fun.

1. Ignoring Them After a Baby Comes

Focusing on a new baby is normal, but don’t forget your dog in the process. They might feel sad or confused about their new place in the family. Keep spending time with them. Let them be part of the baby’s world safely. Studies show that kids with pets grow up happier and more confident—and your dog stays happy, too.

A Little Reminder from Your Dog’s Heart

Dogs love us deeply, even when we mess up. All they want is our time, care, and attention. Understanding the things they dislike helps us be better companions. Ultimately, it’s about respect and love—the kind they show us daily.