Dogs don’t get mad like people do, but that doesn’t mean they can’t feel unhappy or uncomfortable around you. They have their ways of showing when something isn’t right. Often, they’re simply trying to tell you they’re upset or stressed and hoping you’ll notice. Let’s go through 11 signs that might mean your dog isn’t feeling good about you right now — and what you can do to fix it.

1. Your Dog Avoids Your Touch

Dogs are naturally affectionate animals. In the wild, physical touch like grooming builds bonds in a pack. At home, petting your dog isn’t just for fun — it releases happy chemicals that make them feel safe and loved. So, if your dog usually enjoys cuddles but suddenly ducks away when you reach out, it’s a sign that something’s wrong. Maybe they’re annoyed, uncomfortable, or even in pain. Always look for other signs, too, like limping or avoiding movement, just to be sure.

Sometimes, dogs aren’t in the mood to be touched, but it’s worth paying attention if it happens often. A visit to the vet is a good idea if you’re unsure.

2. Your Dog Refuses to Sit or Stay

Dogs are a lot like kids when it comes to stubbornness. They might be upset if your dog listens typically well but suddenly won’t sit, stay, or respond to easy commands. And it’s not always about them — your mood can also rub off on them. If you’re stressed, frustrated, or tense, your dog feels it and might react by refusing to cooperate.

Some breeds are naturally a bit more headstrong. Huskies, for example, don’t always care about following commands — they’re independent by nature. Still, if your dog suddenly stops listening, check in with yourself first. A calm owner often means a calmer dog.

3. Your Dog Won’t Look You in the eye

When your dog trusts you, they make soft, loving eye contact. It’s one of the sweetest ways dogs bond with humans. Research has shown that gazing into a dog’s eyes can even boost levels of the love hormone oxytocin for both of you.

But when a dog feels uneasy, they’ll look away. Avoiding eye contact is a peaceful way for dogs to avoid conflict. If your dog usually looks you right in the eye but now glances away or moves away, they might be upset. Please give them a little space, stay calm, and rebuild that trust slowly.

4. They Don’t Relax Around You

You can tell a lot about a dog’s feelings by how they act when things are quiet. Dogs that feel safe flop over roll on their backs or snooze peacefully nearby. But a dog that stays alert, stiff, or keeps looking around isn’t comfortable.

If your dog never seems to fully relax when you’re around, it could mean they don’t feel completely safe yet. Try to make your home a calm, safe space for them. Gentle tones, quiet movements, and a cozy routine can all help them relax again.

5. Your Dog Keeps Their Distance

Just like you might avoid someone when you’re upset, dogs do it too. If your dog is always leaving the room when you come in, or choosing to hang out far away, it’s probably a sign they’re not feeling good about something. They’re trying to avoid conflict peacefully.

But distance can also mean your dog isn’t feeling well. Dogs naturally hide pain to protect themselves, just like in the wild. A vet visit might be needed if your dog is acting distant and seems tired, stiff, or uninterested in food.

6. Your Dog Growls at You

Growling is serious — it’s a big warning sign in dog language. If your dog growls when you reach for them, touch a specific spot, or even approach them, they tell you to back off. It doesn’t mean they’re bad; they’re upset, scared, or hurting.

Growling can also happen when a dog is protecting something they value, like a toy, food, or even their favorite person. Always respect a growl. Figure out what’s causing the stress and help your dog feel safer instead of pushing through their boundaries.

7. They Refuse a Treat From You

Most dogs would never say no to a tasty treat. So if yours does — especially if it’s a favorite snack — it’s a sign they’re upset or uncomfortable. Some dogs are too nervous or suspicious to eat when they’re stressed.

However, refusing food could cause physical issues like pain, nausea, or sickness. If your dog consistently refuses treats, it’s worth checking in with a vet to rule out any health problems.

8. Your Dog Is Friendlier With Others

Nothing stings quite like seeing your dog happily cuddle with someone else but bolt when you approach. If your dog seems to seek affection from everyone but you, it’s usually a sign that something in your bond needs repair.

Maybe they’re associating you with stress or scary situations. Take it slow — rebuild trust through calm interactions, soft praise, and letting them come to you on their terms.

9. Your Dog’s Body Stiffens Up When You’re Near

A relaxed dog is easy to spot — wagging tail, soft body, loose movements. A tense dog, on the other hand, gets stiff, with a tucked tail, rigid posture, or pinned-back ears.

If your dog tenses up when you approach, they’re worried. Don’t push them — instead, give them space and a chance to relax. Over time, with calm interactions and positive experiences, their body language will start to soften again.

10. They Don’t Want to Play With You

Dogs love to play. Play is how they bond, burn energy, and show joy. If your usually playful dog suddenly turns down a game of fetch or tug-of-war, it could be a sign they’re upset or even not feeling well.

It’s important to know your dog’s normal energy level. They might need some rest if they seem tired or off for a day. But if they stop playing for days or seem sad, it’s time to check in and call the vet.

11. They Keep Licking Their Lips Around You

Dogs often lick their lips when stressed, nervous, or uncomfortable — not just when hungry. If your dog starts licking their lips or nose a lot when you’re nearby, it’s a subtle signal they’re uneasy.

You’ll often see this if a dog feels trapped, crowded, or overwhelmed. Pay attention to the situation when you see the licking. Back off, speak softly, and give them a little breathing room.

A Final Thought

If you notice these signs in your dog, try not to take it personally. Dogs don’t hold grudges — they live in the moment. When something feels wrong, they show it with their body, their actions, and sometimes their voice.

The good news? Dogs are incredibly forgiving and eager to reconnect. Patience, kindness, and a soft approach can make a huge difference. Keep showing up for your dog, and you’ll rebuild that trust in no time.

Because to your dog, you’re their whole world — they want to feel safe, loved, and happy by your side.